Wednesday, April 18, 2012

i don't handle 'thank you' all that well.

i turn deep red because i feel my cheeks flush, my face does a funny thing. my arms spread out aimlessly and then come together soon enough,  i fumble for words, often repeating what the other person just said, and quite often i do say thanks in response to the thanks said by that other person. this is how it goes - giggle/nervous laughter, "oh okay thanks.." more annoying giggle. :-|
yes more often than not that's how i respond to that beautiful kind word. and it's not that i detest the word, on the contrary, i use it quite a lot, perhaps more than i should.sometimes a little too condescending maybe [i am working on it].
so, when i am so generous with my -  thanks, much thanks, thank you, thanks a lot, oh thanks, thanky and its other variants, i wonder why i do such a sloppy job of accepting one. does it say something about my personality? some disorder? should i be dissecting my thank you-guilt? is it that i feel undeserving of that tiny gratitude?
i am not fond of 'you are welcome', i find it boring and not genuine. it is of course better than my nervous giggle routine, but is kind of too spontaneous to be heartfelt, it seems like the expected thing to do once someone thanks you. i often want to say more than 'you are welcome' and i want to say like i mean it.

i wish to be gracious, i wish to just smile and say - oh that's alright/anytime/my pleasure. or even just a smile would do too. let me begin with the smile... the words can come letter. a simple smile, honest smile that says, yes i loved doing that for you, and i absolutely would want to do it again. how difficult can that be? 


does anyone remember 'mention not'? yes, that might reveal the period you were born in...

8 comments:

  1. I use "sure" to respond to a thank you. I have tried to think about what it could actually mean... sure!
    Its probably an abbreviation of "sure...no problem" or is it a confused "sure?... you're really thankful?" (naah!) or just an uncomfortable "sure" that "if you ask me again, I will do it again..."
    Dunno. When you figure it out, mail me and then I will know.
    Thank you by the way....

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. 'sure' is good, why didn't i think of it.
      it's confident, genuine, humble, and INTRIGUING, all at once.

      Delete
  2. have a nice sunday dear and keep posting interesting thoughts!

    kisses

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. :) thanks aida, and we are back to monday again.. somehow pleasant thoughts refuse to come on a monday, or a tuesday for that matter.

      Delete
  3. wat about... 'OHH, NOT AT ALL'...

    It can also go very well when u respond to Sorries...

    Way say??

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. oh yeah, works perfectly. yes, i like not at all :)

      Delete
  4. I have a problem with graciously accepting a compliment- rather than say "thank you", I fumble/blush or try to downplay it....crazy!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. hmmm, yeah seriously what's with this problem... read it somewhere, when some says hey nice shirt/skirt/shoes... we usually come up with lame answers like - oh it's very old/got it for a steal/oh it was lying in a corner of my closet.. etc etc, when just a 'thank you' works fine.

      Delete